So you know you’re ready for the beautiful experience that having a baby offers. But you aren’t sure if your partner is on the same page as you are and whether they want to join you on that journey yet. Finding it out can sure be tricky, but wait till you realize that your spouse isn’t ready to start a family yet. Boom! There begins a baby-making battle – you want one; they want one, but not yet. It’s time to go about convincing your partner that you both are ‘ready’. If your wife is not ready yet, sit her down and calmly approach the topic. She may have certain fears that you can help get over, slowly and steadily. Wives are usually not that difficult to convince about starting a family, especially because we all are born with maternal instincts. But convincing husbands can be a lot harder than you’d think.
Here are 10 foolproof tips that will help you convince your hubby dearest to join you on a hot, sexy journey together (which is when you’re trying to have a baby of course!):
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1 The first step is to change your hubby’s point of view on pregnancies. After all he must’ve tried his best NOT to get any woman pregnant all this time. Nope, that won’t do.
2 Take it slow; hurrying will only scare him away. Don’t expect to convince your husband in a week and get to the business straight away.
3 It could be that your husband thinks he cannot rear children well. Babysitting for friends and relatives could help. Make sure to babysit with your husband a few times, then casually mention how great it would be if you were babysitting your baby together.
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4 Don’t mention anything to him about your ‘ovulation’ or the ‘magical time’; it only increases anxiety. Also, it would be better if you didn’t mention thermometers, mucus levels and ovulation cycles in front of him; such phrases and contraptions can throw him off it. You don’t want baby-making to seem too clinical, it’s all about enjoying each other’s company.
5 Lingerie can spice things up! Wear your best pair (or his favorite) and accidently let your night gown slip a bit. He’ll fall for it every time! You could even surprise him by asking for a quick hot session at an “out of the norm time” like in the middle of the night or just before he leaves for work.
6 He may feel that having a baby would need him to make lots of sacrifices in terms of lifestyle change. While this is true, explain to him politely and calmly and reassure him that these sacrifices would totally be worth making for the fun experiences you both will have with the kid.
7 Once he seems a little bit convinced, don’t pounce on him with suggestions of how to go about it. For starters, simply agree together that he would ejaculate inside you whenever possible. Even after being convinced, he needs time to get excited about it as you are.
8 Orgasm should be the focus every time. Just learn to enjoy and have fun with each other. Conceiving is a long (yes, very long) and beautiful experience. You don’t want to mess it up in haste.
9 Be realistic. Give yourself a window of 10-12 months to get pregnant. Don’t freak out if you did not get pregnant in a month or two. If you do, you’ll only disappoint your spouse and make them feel guilty.
10 Finally, make sure that your husband is 100% ready and willing to get you pregnant. Even after weeks of convincing, he may still be in two minds. It won’t be fair on your part to rush him into it.
Convincing your man to have a baby may not be easy; so remember to be patient, supportive and understanding. Give him time to swallow the idea. The most important part is to reassure him, praise him and make him feel understood as he too may have certain fears and would require your support to overcome them.
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So what’re you waiting for, begin your magical journey! Go, tell him how great he would be as a father; but remember to keep it cool and casual and not seem emotionally over-bearing.
Until next time!