Breaking up can be worse for those who invested emotionally in a relationship. Whatever may be the reason, lack of trust, time issues, long distance, toxicity, unpreparedness etc. One can never be happy after breakup exception being: you were cheating on your significant other. But if you know mentally that its ‘finally over’ & it’s time to move on with your life, then its time you should really do! I know it is tad bit hard, but not impossible. Drinking & acting like a heartbroken soul won’t help nor will self-harm.
So what to do? This is the time when your soul needs you more than anyone else! Self-love is crucial. Then why not read about it? Here at The Brunette Diaries, we have a made a list of best books which will make you feel good about being with yourself again!
1. The Pisces – Melissa Broder
It is a fantastic breakup book, The Pisces is a must-read for anyone going through love addiction withdrawal. The book starts with a breakup, and while there is an erotic romantic plot with her merman rebound (just go with it), this book is definitely anything but saccharine. It’s the perfect escape for those who like to question the need to escape itself.
2. Communion : The Female Search For Love – Bell Hooks
Post-breakup, you might realize the degree to which you were holding on to the relationship because of a story you were telling yourself. If you’re ready to examine that story and the role of narratives around romantic love in your choices, bell hooks’ book (from her all-around masterful “Love Trilogy”) is for you.
My favourite quote is :
“As females in a patriarchal culture, we were not slaves of love; most of us were and are slaves of longing — yearning for a master who will set us free and claim us because we cannot claim ourselves.”
3. Milk & Honey – Rupi Kaur
Anything said about this book of poems will fall short. Let this quote say about the book itself.
“How cruel I was to myself. Giving you credit for my warmth simply because you had felt it. Thinking it was you who gave me strength. Wit. Beauty. Simply because you recognized it. As if I was already not these things before I met you. As if I did not remain all these things after you left.” The book cannot be missed!
4. Self Help – Lorrie Moore
Moore’s nine stories — touching on infidelity, trust, passion, and mortality — range from vaguely optimistic to downright depressing while maintaining the thoughtful, personal, and often funny tone that makes you feel like you’re just commiserating with a friend who’s had it worse than you.
5. Him, Her, Him Again, The End Of Him – Patricia Marx
This book which is a satirical story about a girl who has spent 10 years trying to attract a pretentious PhD student just to understand how wrong she was and how much time she wasted as a result. The story is based on the author’s own experience, and shows that your breakup might be a blessing rather than a curse.
See, getting to terms with breakup will take time, but make sure that time makes you stronger, & you make a shield over your heart so that no other person can break it thaaattttt easily! Next time, don’t fall so quickly. Because, whenever something falls, it breaks!