As a toddler and then a teenager, children can tend to be stubborn. Sometimes it is just boundaries that they try to explore, and most times it is their way of expressing their own freedom. It is your duty to teach your children to express their freedom in a healthy way that doesn’t affect their personality in the long run. Dealing with a stubborn child can be a really sensitive matter that may require a lot of patience and understanding. Let us look at certain things you need to consider while disciplining a stubborn child.
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Arguing with a stubborn child may make a situation worse than it already is. Scolding them and trying to amend them forcefully is never going to work straight away. Such children don’t always know the acceptable social norms that you may expect so it is important for you to slowly imbibe such knowledge in them and reward them for appropriate behaviour.
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Sometimes, instead of using all the tricks and strategies to discipline a stubborn child, just listen to him. He probably just wants the attention that you aren’t necessarily giving him.
Reward good behaviour
By reinforcing good behaviour, you are going to make the child feel motivated to do things right. Every child has an innate desire to make his parents smile, so imbibe this habit of rewarding him whenever he does something right, and smile, just so he knows you like it.
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Frown upon stubbornness
Whenever your child is acting stubborn, make sure he knows you don’t appreciate it without showing anger. Just a small frown will do, getting angry with your child is just going to make the situation worse.
Make your home a place where he can feel secure and happy. Let discussions be more open and let rules be explained well. This will decrease most chances of arguments and it brings affection into discipline as well.
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A stubborn child may not always be stubborn throughout his growing up phase. But if you do not do something about it today, it could affect his tomorrow, just as it is affecting your today!