Has it ever happened that your partner, your children or your siblings have, out of frustration, called you a nagger? Do you often find yourself getting irritated with someone only because they haven’t done things your way? If yes, then this article is for you. It will guide you on helping yourself and the others involved in the not-so-great situation.
Not necessary everyone follows your suit
You’ve got your style of executing things, and others have their own. Just because someone didn’t follow your suit doesn’t mean that they were offending you. For example, you ask your husband to arrange the utensils in the shelf, and if he does it in a fashion that deviates from yours you don’t have to go blah-blah-blah on him. As long as he’s helping you out around the house, there shouldn’t be any rules about how certain chores should be done. Try to avoid re-doing things you’ve asked him to do or telling him how something should be done after he’s already completed a task. Nagging him because he hasn’t done something as per your standards isn’t fair and will simply lead to an unnecessary argument.
Don’t give importance to negligible things
You ask your sister to get a packet of chocolate chip biscuits of your favourite brand, but she ends up bringing another brand of chocolate chip biscuits. Do you start ranting about how stupid she is to bring another brand? Has your brother not put back the cap on the toothpaste properly? Does it lead you to yelling on him about how careless he is? If yes, you need to rethink – was the “mistake” really worth getting irritated and angry? Ask yourself why you’re letting the little things get you so worked up. Are there underlying issues that need to be resolved, such as being unhappy at work or stressed out about family concerns? If so, taking out your frustration on others through nagging isn’t going to help either of you. So, instead of getting angry every now and then, just relax and realize that ignoring these little “mistakes” will make your life easier, you calmer and your relationships richer.
Nagging sounds very similar to demanding. And we all would agree that a request is always welcomed more than a demand or order is. So, a simple “please” and “thank you” accompanied by a genuine smile can ease out the tension of expectations. No adult enjoys being treated like a child. Treat him with respect, and he’ll be much more receptive to anything you ask of him.
Think before you nag
When you feel yourself itching to nag, stop and think about whether what you’re about to say is really necessary. Are you just nagging out of habit, because you’re tired and in a bad mood, or because that person really did skip something major? If there’s truly nothing worth pestering someone about, keep your nitpicking to yourself. You’ll end up having a much more pleasant evening.