How To Mend A Broken Relationship When All Hope Is LOST
It is not easy to let go, especially when you’ve already dreamt of living your entire life together in the future. Having to fall in love with one person, is it easy to just forget everything and move on? I don’t think so. It never really is a “breakup” between those two who have a connection that no one really understands. A connection that makes them cry when the other one is and how to lift each other in bad times, to support, to love so unconditionally and unselfishly that you can never be separated. Maybe that’s what soul mates are defined as. But what should one do when there's no hope left? When it’s falling apart and you don’t know the cause? Do you just let go? Or you fight the problem? There are a few steps that MAY help you mend your relationship, but only if both of you are willing to fix it!
1) Firstly figure out IF the other one in the relationship wants it to be FIXED
There’s no point if the other one doesn’t want to fix things. If they want to let go, you’ll have to let go too, but if there’s willingness from both sides, you should give your 100% to try whatever it takes to help strengthen your relationship. It takes two people to mend a broken relationship. If you are the only one trying to save things then you will never succeed.
2) Don’t bring up the past
“It’s never you against him, it’s you and him against the problem”
Bringing up things from past to prove the other one's wrong is simply damaging the relationship even more so! If you truly love that person, maybe it’s time for you to let go of that stuff from the past and also expect the same from your partner. It’s never healthy, take it from someone who’s experienced the same just a month back. So remember, love them for who they are, not for what they were or could be!
3) Be accountable for your actions and don't blame one another
The blame game never ends, it really never does. Unless one of you wisens up and understand that it is leading nowhere. Blaming each other is simply putting down each other where sometimes it is difficult to get back up from there. Yes, they might’ve done pretty bad shit in the past but what counts is how much they love you and how much willing they are to make this relationship work. That’s all that matters!
4) Understand where they’re coming from
It is easy to sit behind and judge. To crib about how your partner reacted or said some words the way they did, but what is the harsh reality is to try to understand why they react the way they do. They may be going through a tough time that you aren’t aware, maybe because you’re busy in your life too, try to put yourself in their shoes and maybe you’ll know that you would’ve reacted the same way they did! It all comes down to how understanding, trusting and sacrificial you can be.
Go communicate with your partner even when they try their best to push you away, they might just want to be pulled back by you, and you might never know. Go try at least, it may give you and them all your happiness back <3