How to nail your first sexual intercourse

 

Should I wax? No, no, I’ll shave. Should I spray perfume down there? Can I scream if it pains? Should I switch off the lights? God! I am nervous.

There is a first time for everything in life; the first time you speak to a guy, first proposal, first crush, first compliment, first sex, etc. But, among these, the first sexual act will always remain close to your heart. Getting naked, allowing a man to touch your private parts and finally ‘losing’ your virginity cannot be easily forgotten. To be physically intimate with a person for the first time can be really exciting and nervous.

While some friends may scare you with their ‘horrible experiences’, others might simply overload you with their tips and ideas.

But, relax. You don’t have to worry so much about your first time. Here is a very general idea that we are giving you to help you feel less tensed about the whole idea of having sex for the first time.

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Personal hygiene

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To enjoy good sex for the first time, it is important for you to be hygienic. You can use aromatic intimate wash to keep your genitals clean and shave off your pubic hair. Remember: nobody likes to deal with a forest area.

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Using fingers for foreplay

Before penetrating, he can use his fingers to rub your clitoris as it can help you get turned on easily. Men get aroused faster than women. So, don’t be hasty to reach the climax.

Since it is your first time, your vagina is likely to be tight, thus making it difficult for his penis to enter you. It is important for you to indulge in ample foreplay before letting him penetrate. How can you be sure whether you are ready for the act? First touch the outer regions of your vagina to feel any wetness, if yes, you are ready for it; else continue with the foreplay. Once you start cumming, you can allow him to enter his penis inside you. But, if you are scared, you can begin by allowing him to insert a finger inside your vagina, and once you are comfortable you can proceed towards the actual penetration.

Communication

By communicating you can distract yourself from the so called “pain” as he penetrates for the first time. Talk about his body or how ‘good’ he is in bed.

No alcohol

Don’t be drunk because first sex is a memory of a lifetime. I am sure that you don’t want to wake up wondering how well it went.

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Relax

It is normal to be nervous about your first sexual encounter. Relax. Take deep breaths if you want. You are not writing an exam or participating in a competition. You have to enjoy the whole act and for that you need to remain calm.

Follow your instincts

Do not try to use moves that your friends claimed to be perfect. Indulging in doing what makes you comfortable is important.

Be gentle

First time can be painful especially because of the rigidness of the vagina. Therefore, ask him to penetrate slowly at the beginning. He can increase the speed later on.

Privacy

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This is your first time. So try to avoid all sorts of distraction. You can switch off your phone and other electronic gadgets that may ruin the act.

(You might also want to read How to practise safe sex)

Keep it simple

Don’t complicate yourself. Try to keep it simple. To have scented candles and other stuff may be your fantasy. But, you can do it the next time. Try to be simple on your first. The more you expect the less effective it might turn out to be. So avoid complicating your first sex.

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