Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn’t need to go hunting for these. However, some people crave and strive for attention and can go to any extent to receive it from every possible soul around them. This behaviour used to be common among children. But now, even adults are resorting to such behaviour. These attention seeking adults resort to doing inappropriate things, or sometimes telling lies just to get attention; they may engage in more constructive and/or destructive behaviour like striving for success and recognition or purposefully landing up in a soup (so to speak) just for the sake of gaining attention.
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It must be noted that not all attention seekers suffer from a personality disorder but most of them do have a condition called Attention-seeking Personality Disorder. But everyone deserves a benefit of doubt, for e.g. if a person did not receive love and affection as a child, he may develop attention seeking behaviour as an adult, and there are ways to treat this with therapy and will. But dealing with those who are a bit graver when it comes to attention-seeking can be extremely difficult.
In case you are someone who’s fed up of a close one going overboard to seek attention, here’s a two-step simple tip – discuss, avoid! Yes, first you need to highlight before them that their attention-seeking behavior isn’t quite pleasant for people on the other side of the fence. If they improve their ways, good for you; if they don’t, go to step two – avoid that person whenever they are calling for attention with their antics, because the more you give them what they are asking for, the more they will keep on demanding. Once they realize that their antics won’t get them anywhere, they’ll simply recede.
If you have a friend or know of someone who suffers from Attention-seeking Personality Disorder then these tips may help them out.
“Who am I”: The first step for someone to get over this personality disorder is to know who they really are. They need to look into a mirror and ask themselves who they are and what original abilities set them apart. Once they get to know themselves better, the battle will be easier.
Notice why and when they seek attention the most. Many people receive attention without them noticing; is your acquaintance failing to notice the attention they are already receiving? If yes, they need to gauge if they are already receiving attention from somewhere, as this will help them realise that they don’t need to really ‘do anything’ to receive attention.
Another important tip is to know how attention can affect one’s life negatively. Every coin has two sides and the bad side is much more impactful. People who didn’t know them earlier may now notice them, and without knowing them properly form judgments – more often than not, negative.
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Hopefully with these tips you’ll be able to get over the emotional turmoil that you may be going through. Feel free to request any related topic in our request box on www.thebrunettediaries.com