How To Tackle Dysfunctional Or Sadistic Individuals
We all have come across people who are prickly and dysfunctional. At times, such people can act completely impossible and it's really difficult to handle them. Whether it's a family member, one of your friends, a co-worker or worse, your boss (!); such highly aggressive and challenging people can turn any good day into your worst nightmare. Most of us have met such a sadistic personality atleast once in our lives. Chances are, some of you are still trying to deal with the repercussions of having a negative person around. But at times, when walking away is not an option, what do you do?
Here are a few tips on how to deal with people with a dysfunctional personality, in all walks of life:
In the family:
People who derive pleasure by seeing others suffer are indeed sadistic. No matter how close you once were to them, if you have fallen victim to their qualms and emotional attacks it's important to take a stand. Even if it's a family member who is just too terrible, don't put up with the crap just because you can't walk away. Confront them in front of family elders (let the kids stay away from this) and let them know that you do not like the way they treat you and steer clear from them afterwards.
In your friend circle:
Many a times we face difficult people even in our friend circles. Firstly, you must be extremely cautious as these people can turn out to be bullies. Refer to this article to know more about bullies – Friend or a bully? Secondly, learn to take responsibility for your part of the interaction. Animosity stems from within us, just turning your back to the situation and muttering "She's impossible!" to your other friend won't help. Take a stand and politely ask your bully-friend to stop treating you like crap. If they persist, stop interacting with them and disregard their existence.
At your workplace:
Also read: Signs that you've got the wrong job
This is something everybody faces all across the globe. Often a co-worker or a head tries to undermine you; your boss plays favourites, people form groups and bitch about you, you hear a terrible rumour about yourself and realise who started it... These instances and people can make it difficult to work with them. But no matter how the situation is, and no matter how high in the ranks they may be, you must address them. Do it politely, but let them know that you do not appreciate such behaviour as it is insulting to you. Respect their position in the office and have a private discussion with them. If they do not budge you can ether approach the HR or think about changing your job.
This article was requested by our reader Hiral Goradia. Thanks a ton Hiral! We hope you find it useful. :)