Ever found yourself in a situation where you are “in love with two people at the same time”? It can be really tricky to find balance in such a situation, as expectations will continue to exist (from both sides). And mind you, this situation can easily give rise to fear, jealousy, possessiveness and hurt the feelings of more than one person.
Mostly, falling in love with a second person is an aftereffect of being in an un-satisfactory relationship (emotional, sexual or otherwise). But the best thing to do if you find yourself in such a situation is to make a choice. You can’t possibly remain with two people for as long as you want.
So what should one do if faced by this dilemma of choosing between two people? Here are some tips:
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The first thing you need to do is ask yourself if you really are in love. Is it probably just initial attraction or infatuation? It is important to analyze the relationship you share with both your partners and come to a decision with a strong head. Commitment, love, passion, responsibility and future, each of these aspects must be taken into consideration before coming to a decision.
You must give yourself enough time and not make a hasty decision. Get a clear idea of what you want from a relationship. Also consider why you love a person, and whether you love one of them more than the other. Make a mental-list of the pros and cons as regards to the personal characters of the two people you are confused about. Think about whom you know better, who you gel well with, and who is it that can make you happy ‘till death do you apart’. This will make things easier for you. From among the two people you claim to love, spot who possesses more characteristics that can give you a positive future built on togetherness. And finally, listen to your heart. If you make a hasty decision based on logic, there are chances you may not be happy with your choice later in the day.
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Let me end this with a smart and agreeable quote by Johnny Depp: “If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.” I think that just about sums it all up.
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