Even in today’s times, there are people who prefer to have arranged marriage over love marriage. But it must be admitted that arranged marriages are never easy. Having to spend one’s life with a person you don’t know too well is a huge risk after all. While some people still rely upon family relatives and members of their social circle to find suitable partners, many people are resorting to marriage portals to find their life partners. However, there are many risks involved in finding a partner through these sources. It’s always better to cross-check these things before getting into a formal alliance:
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It is important to verify or cross-check their family background. At times, people do not disclose their family background clearly to their prospective partners. Ask their neighbours or friends regarding what the family members do and what is their background and way of life. This can also help you gauge the reputation the family has in the neighborhood. You can also ask your common friend or the person who brought their proposal to you, to enquire about these things.
Age: Age is just a number, but it’s completely wrong to fake it! Especially with marriage portals, people are bound to fake their age by providing wrong information about their birth date, etc. Be sure to ask for their passport or any government document that states their age clearly.
Don’t be apprehensive of inquiring about your prospective alliance’s health conditions. In today’s day and age, it is extremely important to cross-check with the prospective bride or groom whether they have any major health issues or something as grave as an STD or HIV, etc.
Professional background: You’d be surprised to know that many people don’t disclose their occupation in an arranged marriage. You must verify what a person does before committing to them. Ask them questions about what they do, where they work etc. Call up the place they mention and verify whether such a person indeed works there, and what is his/her character-reputation there.
Educational background: Often, people have been tricked into believing that they have married an individual who holds an MBA or Ph. D degree, only to find out later that they aren’t even through college. Be sure to avoid such a situation by cross-checking their documents and degrees. Ask them trick questions that would help you gauge whether they are really educated or not.
Check their social media profiles to know more about their lifestyle. You may also figure out about their previous relationships and the likes. Check for any suspicious activity going on in their social circle which they have hidden from you.
The most important thing that you must cross-check is whether your prospective life partner is or was involved in any kind of criminal activity. What if you find out that the person whom you are engaged or married to has a case of rape filed against him, or perhaps was in prison for a couple of years or so for some crime? It’s better to enquire thoroughly before giving your consent to marry a person you hardly know.
Do remember that the more things you verify, the better it will be for your future.