Once you’re engaged, you start to feel the difference in your day-to-day life. Everything seems new and people start looking at you in a different light (now that you are not single anymore). But if you look closer, the phase after your engagement also brings a tiny amount of stress with it. Slowly you come to realize that juggling your daily life with planning your wedding is not an easy task. If you aren’t sure where to start or what to do next, you could get overwhelmed and fagged out. But, if you’re a bit more organized, planning a wedding can surely be a fun experience. So if you want to plan your perfect day without any hassles, the first step is to make your wedding checklist. Obviously, one single checklist can never suit everyone, but if you have a few sample checklists, you can always modify them to suit your needs.
Here are some tips on making (or modifying) a wedding checklist:
Simply writing down your plans can be of a great help when your mind stops working the last minute. But if your plans get lost in the heap of ‘raddi’ then it’s doom’s day! A great tip is to make a special wedding folder or binder in which you can keep a record of all the important aspects of your D-day.
So what’s the very first thing you should put down in the folder? Your wedding budget, of course! Ask your family members how much they are willing to contribute (if they are) and think about how much money you can comfortably afford to spend on your wedding. Then write it down.
Once your budget has been decided, it’s time to plan how many parties or functions you would want to keep. This will help you to decide how many people you want to invite. Whether you want a simple 2 or 3-day affair, or a lavish full week wedding comprising of bachelor/bachelorette party, cocktail party, sangeet, haldi-mehndi, pre-wedding bash, wedding ceremony, and reception, it depends on how much you want to spend on each of these functions.
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Now that you have planned the number of your functions/parties, it’s time to decide who you want to invite to the parties. It may seem brutal, but if you want to save your cost or avoid going over-budget, keep your guest-list short. If you’re having a small 2-day wedding, feel free to invite anywhere between 500 and 1000 guests. On the other hand if you want a lavish wedding then you’re better off with a smaller guest-list, so as to have a comfortable and peaceful wedding.
Pick your date. Once you know that you want these many people to attend your wedding and these many functions will be preceding the big day, it’s time to pick a suitable date. Pick a date well in advance (at least 6 months before) as that not only gives you better rates while pre-booking halls, decorators, etc, but will also give you enough time to plan and lay aside the amount before the due date.
Hire a wedding planner (if you can afford one) who will take care of things going forward. If you want to plan the wedding by yourself with your family’s help, then divide responsibilities.
Ask your cousins to book the photographers, florists, decorators and wedding bands (or DJ) in advance and follow up with them 2-3 months before the wedding.
Your family elders can accompany you to decide which caterer should be hired and what food needs to be on the menu. Three months before your wedding, get the wedding invitation cards printed and get them couriered if they are supposed to go out-station.
Once the above preps have been made, you can start your shopping. Make a separate shopping list and include all the items that you may want for the wedding and after it. Go slow and keep an eye for sales.
If some of your guests are coming from overseas, make hotel reservations for them or ask your family or friends if they know of a place (cottage, flat or bungalow) where you can accommodate them.
Shop for your wedding dress, jewellery and other dresses for all the functions; then talk to a good hairdresser and makeup artist who can give you a trial of all the looks. It is advisable to check with them their hygiene quality – what brand of makeup do they use, do they sanitize the brushes, etc.
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Plan your honeymoon (this needs to be included in the budget). Talk to your fiancé/fiancée and ask him/her where he/she would like to go. Also discuss the budget with them and ask if they want to chip in.
Finally, you need to realize that it’s the biggest day of your life and you need to look and feel your best; so, starting 2 or 3 months before the D-day, go for regular salon treatments and relaxing spas. You can also opt for a couple spa and spend more time with your better half!