A divorce is always tough. Even if it was an abusive marriage, leaving all that trauma and bad memories behind is a difficult task. And it becomes even tougher if you have kids from such an unhealthy bond.

The Brunette Diaries lists down the most common divorce mistakes that can eventually save you from a lot of stress and harassment. So, if you're somebody who's standing on such a threshold, bookmark this page.

- Apart from the emotional investment, there's also a lot of financial investment that two people make into a marriage. So, all your joint accounts, joint investments, and joint debts need to be relooked. We'd advise you to not make irrational decisions and set a new rhythm for all things economical.

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- Apart from cases where divorce is a mutual decision, most couples find ways to get even with their partner during the proceedings. Please do not use assets or custody as a weapon to get back at your partner. Have a mature point of view towards an issue where the stakes are so high!

- During your married life, you might have come across people who later turned out to be good common friends. Now just ‘coz you guys are parting ways, it's unfair to expect your friends to take sides. However, it's okay if you want to give group gatherings a miss ‘coz you don't want to bump into your ex-partner.

- Taking divorce advice from just anyone is a strict no! They may mean well but relying on the advice of someone who's not an expert may be dangerous. We'd advise you to take heed of what your attorney recommends.

- Handling kids in such a situation is tricky. While on one hand you shouldn't hide the reality from them, you also shouldn't bad-mouth your ex in front of them. Shattering their image of good parents will scar them for life; in fact, experts say that kids may also enter into depression in such cases. Explain to them that they needn't be insecure; they will always have both their parents by their side.

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- There are couples who enter into the mess thinking that the process of divorce will be happily over by the next 6 months. Do not fall into that trap! Divorce proceedings go on for years at a stretch, so be prepared for that. In fact, try to settle things outside the court for obvious reasons!

- Lastly, do not go looking for a rebound relationship. Yes, a divorce is stressful, but remember that the time after it is for you to heal and not rush into bed with someone. Sort out your married life before committing to another person.

A divorce is no joke, and avoiding these common mistakes will only help you lessen the stress.

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