Explaining the birds and bees to kids
As parents and guardians, it is our responsibility to educate kids about healthy sexual practices and behaviours. If they learn it from somewhere outside, there is a higher possibility that their curiosity may pose problems. Following are some important notes that we must consider while explaining about sex to kids:
You must be the first to explain sexuality to kids
It is better to start off with a clean slate rather than with adulterated information your kids may have picked up from friends, television and the internet. Unfortunately, this doesn't happen and the most common reason for this is fear. If you are willing to let go of this fear to confront such situations, your kids will enjoy a healthier learning experience in the all important matter of sex.
Sex talks should be natural and gradual
If you believe that one talk with your child is going to do the trick, then I'm afraid you are mistaken. As the child grows, questions will keep popping up and you have to be there to answer them and tackle them before anybody else does. But be careful not to give explicit information to a ten-year-old child.
Model healthy sexuality
Your kids will pick up on how you feel and talk about sex. They notice how their parents treat each other. If you have healthy sexuality in your marriage, as your kids get older they will begin to understand the gift that sex is to a married couple.
Make them respect sex
Make them understand and value sex as a gift from God. The respect that develops will help them make right decisions in their lives. The more they respect sex, the easier your job is. Sex should not be a taboo word, but a word that is clearly understood and spoken about.
Creating an atmosphere of open-mindedness is the right way to go. If you are able to inculcate such values in your kids, then you can be sure that you will not come across problems dealing with teenage pregnancies and so on.