How Can You Get Rid Of Negativity: TBD Asks The People!
Negativity is one of those emotions that can give you a really hard time. When it comes to eliminating negativity, some people can handle it impressively, while some people choose to dwell over it by letting it take over. So, the question still remains: how can you get rid of negativity? To get answers, we asked a few people about how they would eliminate negativity, if faced with certain situations. Here they are.
Getting Rejected By The Person You Love
We asked Rahul Ningot, a 24-year-old who lives the version 2.0 of life since 2012, about how he handled rejection. Here's what he had to say.
"Well, I was once rejected by the girl who I had loved throughout my college life. Being a jovial person, my first idea was to use fun and humour as defense mechanisms to keep the negativity away. I also made it a point to ask her about the reason for rejecting me and what I could do to make myself better, as I would not want to be rejected due to the same reason in the future. I hit the field and the gym as well. Got to channelize the anger in a manly way, right? Hahaha."
Bottom-line: Improve yourself, engross yourself in activities that distract you.
Losing Your Phone
Shahrukh Khan (not the celebrity) was gifted a new mobile phone by his dad, before his college started. But as luck would have it, this college fresher lost his phone in the first week itself. Blame it on Mumbai's overcrowded trains.
"I'm usually a very careful person when it comes to my electronics. My phone was one of my most prized possessions, since it was gifted to me by my dad. I even installed a tracking software in it to be safe. But yes, when I did lose it, I did everything in my capacity to look for it, like going to the cops and all. When I was finally convinced it was lost, I was really upset. But the main thing I did to feel better was call my dad and tell him about it. He didn't scold me; instead, he consoled me with his kind words, and that calmed me down and gave my thoughts a new direction. The key here was confession."
Bottom-line: No matter how bad it is, always confess; it makes you feel better.
Going Through A Breakup
We asked Juhi Mukharji, an aspiring guitarist and a die-hard foodie, about how she handled a breakup. She had this to say.
"The first thing I did was staying close to people who made me feel better about myself. They provided me with insane amounts of positivity. I also did many things I always wanted to do but couldn't. These things definitely made me feel better about myself. I also joined some aggressive activities like mixed martial arts and karate to vent out all my frustration in a more constructive manner. Basically, I did everything that made me feel better."
Bottom-line: Breakup is not the end of the world. Focus your energy on things you've always wanted to do.
Death Of A Close One
Risshi Ramanathkar, a comic book junkie and a football fan, had this to say about handling the death of someone close to him.
"Even thinking about something like this can make me restless. I lost a good friend about a year ago. It took a while for everything to get back on track. But this was the time my passion for football helped me a lot. It was a great constructive outlet for my helplessness, frustration and sadness, plus it kept my mind occupied as well. Hanging out with people close to me was also a great dose of positivity. It took time, but it was all okay in the end. I still miss him though."
Bottom-line: Death is inevitable. Get all the positivity you can from good people, and let your grief out constructively.
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We asked Shreekant Pujari, a literature enthusiast, about what he did when his family constantly had problems. He had this to say.
"My family was at constant loggerheads. After a certain point, I had to put my foot down. I warned them to maintain peace in the house. To facilitate the same, I took them all on a small vacation, where they set their differences aside. This little trip actually did make a lot of difference. I also read up on everything I could for a solution to those tiny problems that lingered around even after the trip. And yes, being a literature enthusiast, some good books definitely refreshed me to face the day."
Bottom-line: Don't give up. With the right kind of measures, even the worst issue can be sorted out.
Murtuza (last name not mentioned on request), a Bollywood journalist, tells us about how he handled himself when lack of money was the problem.
"My solution to this problem may really come across as weird to a lot of people. I prefer dancing to vent out my anger and frustration. It helps me tire myself, so that I can sleep quickly without being lost in any kind of negative thoughts. I also keep myself occupied with work and any other thing that do not allow any negative thoughts to creep in and take over. Besides this, I handle my money in such a way that besides the basic needs, I also manage a few wants. Little joys of life, you see!"
Bottom-line: There's always a way to make yourself happy. It may be weird to the world, but always do what makes you happy.
Staying Away From Home
We asked Mimi Banerjee, a forever dessert-craving Bengali girl, how she feels about staying miles away from home. Here's what she told us.
"I haven't been home since I've moved to Mumbai around a year ago. Yes, things get pretty lonely at times, but I've come up with ways to deal with them. I have planned the perfect home visit, even though I am still months away from it. It gives me a really good feeling since I have something to look forward to. When it comes to keeping myself busy, some feel-good movies, comfort foods, TV shows and amazing music are always there! One of the biggest ups I have is that I live with my partner, so things are not lonely most of the time. I can even share these feelings with my sister, who's out by herself in another city. And another thing that I have done is, I have filled my office desktop with my family photos that keep shuffling as screensaver. But I have to agree, moving out was one of the best decisions of my life."
Bottom-line: Staying away from home can be painful, but there are always positives to it.
These answers give us a lot of perspectives about how people take and handle negativity. A huge shout-out to all of them who joined us for this article!