How To Deal And Co-Exist With Someone You Don't Like
Sometimes for reasons unknown, you just don't like some people, no matter how hard you try. In most cases, this is fine, and your dislike for them does not really affect your life. But, it's a different ball game altogether when you have to live or work with the person you so dislike. And that is why I am here to help you co-exist with someone you don't like.
Keep Appropriate Distance
While this might seem impossible since you are evidently in close proximity with the person all the time, it actually is possible… trust me. Just talk when you have to talk to them, and don't get too chatty. Getting chatty may bring out those traits of them that you don't like, which is not a good idea. So do the bare minimum as and when needed.
Change The Topic
When you are talking to the person you don't like and suddenly they bring up a topic that you know is going to frustrate you and make you angry, simply change the topic. Bring up a lighter topic that you are more comfortable discussing and be persistent about it. If they still insist on discussing the topic that annoys you, politely excuse yourself and leave.
Walk Away At The Right Time
Let's be honest… no matter how hard you try, if you are put into a confined space with a person you dislike, at some point, tempers will rise and you will have a spat. During this spat it is likely both you and the opposite party will put down their points and think the other is wrong. Now, with both not giving in, the spat could last forever. And that is precisely why you need to be the bigger person and walk away from the argument as soon you feel that this is not going to lead either of you anywhere.
Keep To The Boundaries
This is a two-way street. You can't expect to walk all over a person's personal space and expect them not to do the same to you. So the first thing you need to do is, figure out the line that you should never cross with the person you dislike; they are most likely going to respect your personal space too. However, in the event that they don't, then your best bet is to be upfront about it. Draw a line for them and tell them not to over-step.
Don't Take Everything Personally
When the person you don't like says something to you or does something involving you that you don't like, try to take it in your stride and not get too upset about it. Chances are they never consciously meant to hurt you or cause you discomfort, and it was probably just a genuine mistake on their part. So don't get butt hurt and stop taking everything personally.
Search For The Positivity
In the end, don't let your annoyance regarding that person annoy you completely. Take your time. More importantly, keep your eyes, mind and heart open to notice and appreciate the good aspects of who they are and their personality as well. This will help you see them in a different light. Who knows, slowly and steadily you might even start liking them!
So, take a deep breath and follow these simple steps that will help you successfully co-exist with someone you don't like, and hopefully keep things amicable between you and them.