Reasons Why You Shouldn't Be Friends With Your Ex
It had been almost 8 months since we broke up, and there he was, with that dashing smile and his charming smirk, still surrounded by the ladies. He looked more handsome, like he had been working out. I'm not going to exaggerate, but my heart skipped a beat. No flashback and stuff, just something in my body felt different. Suddenly, his eyes turned in my direction and I saw him walking towards me and I looked away immediately.
1. The AWKWARDNESS:
No matter how close you were, things are going to be awkward at times post-breakup. Hug or not to hug, call or not to call. There are going to be times when you don't know if you can behave the same in certain situations which will lead to silence and hence awkwardness!
2. It took you unbelievably long to get over him:
You were madly in love with your ex and it took you a lot of Vodka's to get over him. It's going to bring back the memories. And nothing good can come out of this.
3. You had an on and off thing:
Chances are you might get back with him and fall under the same pattern. You were confused back then, and there was a source to all that confusion, it's best you keep your distance.
4. He or she is seeing someone new:
Irrespective of that brave face that you put on, and how much ever you keep telling yourself that you're cool with it, you cannot pretend. It's not jealousy, I'm sure you want your ex to be happy. But the thought of someone else making him/her happy is a little difficult to digest. Seeing those annoyingly coy pictures of them shopping at your favorite place or going for dinner at the restaurant that you always wanted to take him/her to is going to be troubling.
5. It's hard to turn off romantic feelings:
If you were the one to get dumped and agree to being friends, you might want to get back together, even if you can't. Each time you meet up for a coffee or a movie, you're hoping for a happy ending.
6. He/She was awesome:
If your ex is undoubtedly handsome or absolutely sexy, it's going to be tougher. Cause him/her hanging out with you pretending to be your friend is just going to remind you how great he/she is and the things you loved about him/her in the first place.
7. You're always going to expect the same:
Even if it's been 2 years, and you're all dressed and waiting for him to pick you up for the dinner that he promised, and he cancels on a text, it occurs to you that he'd never do that if he was your boyfriend. Things change, and his/her behavior changes, and you might not be able to deal with it.
"I am friends with my ex" is very cliché and unrealistic. Instead of pretending that everything is okay, it's better to have a clean slate post-break up so that both of you can move on!