8 Relationship Mistakes That You Need To Take Seriously
Every relationship has its ups and downs, and its good days and bad days. If you and your partner are emotionally connected, differences and tiffs amongst you two will not affect the relationship. But, the only way to have this kind of emotional understanding is when you don't deliberately ruin your relationship with these relationship mistakes.
Don't Treat Fights As Battles
Never forget that no matter how bad a fight you both are having, it is in the end just a lovers' spat, not a war. And as such, there is no winner or loser. So when maneuvering your way through the tiff, remember this is not something you have to win, it is something you need to amicably solve and work on making better together.
Don't Get Personal
You both are in a relationship, and as relationships go, it is possible that you know all of their insecurities and their vulnerabilities. Always remember that when your partner shares these kinds of details about themselves and their life with you, it is because they trust you and want to be true to you; they don't tell you these things so that you can use it as leverage when you are pissed off. Respect that!
Don't Bring Up The Past
The past is simply meant to be in the past; let it be there. Don't bring it up, ever. Bringing up a fight you had three months ago or bringing up the time they were late for your birthday won't really make whatever you are fighting about right now any better; on the contrary it could make it much worse. So just don't carry that toxic baggage with you and dump it once and for all.
Don't Get Insecure/Jealous
Yes, you are in a relationship; but no, you are not one person… your partner has his or her own life, friends, family and they need their time too. So, if your partner says they are going to hang around with their friends for a while, don't get jealous or insecure. Understand instead and give them their space. Nothing feels worse than being in a relationship that suffocates you.
Trust is what relationships are built on. If you don't trust your partner, leave them; and if you do, then please don't snoop. There are no two ways about this. Stop checking their phone, social media and please don't stalk them. Even if there is someone hitting on them, it is okay; you can't stop others from hitting on your partner. If your partner doesn't respond to these advances, then all is well, right?
Don't Indulge In Emotional Drama
Please, oh please don't hold your partner hostage emotionally. Don't give ultimatums of ending the relationship just because you aren't getting your way. Worse yet, threaten to commit suicide, etc when they don't listen to you. These kinds of threats are emotionally draining and scary for your partner, don't put them through hell. Just grow up and have a level-headed discussion instead.
Don't Publicize Your Problems
Whatever may be the issue between the two of you, getting it out there for public consumption is not going to help you solve it. Besides, if social media is your weapon of choice, know this – people are not interested in your personal life, but they would love to mock and gossip about it. Also, don't go to each other's friends and families and try to gain their sympathies. The best thing to do is sort out the issue in private.
Also read: 7 Fool-Proof Ways To Spot A Commitment Phobe
Don't Make Them Your Everything
In the end, accept the fact that not all relationships can last; no matter how good they are, sometimes things just don't work. That is precisely why you should never make your partner your everything or your reason for living. Have a life outside the bubble of your relationship too. Don't lose your identity in order to love them, because if they leave, you will be left with nothing, not even yourself. So give it your best, but don't lose yourself!
If you and your better half stay away from these relationship mistakes then you two have a chance of actually making it to ‘forever' perhaps!