Tips On Surviving Your First Year Of Marriage
The first year of marriage can be full of landmines that you need to sidestep cautiously. Whether it is an arranged or love marriage, the first year is the most crucial part of your relationship. This is when you are introduced to change, new opinions and a completely new living situation. So, if you are planning to get married soon, or have just begun this beautiful journey of companionship, here is what you need to know. Take a look at these essential tips on surviving your first year of marriage so that you lay a strong foundation for the rest of your life.
Team Up And Get Going
No matter for how long you might have been in a relationship with a person, it can still feel a little overwhelming when you get married to that person. You both need to team up if you want to make it through together. This is a partnership of a lifetime, and you need to make a joint effort to make this marriage work. Start off by equally dividing your responsibilities, domestic chores and openly discussing your finances. Even if you have married the person you love, getting to know his folks or even living with them can catch you off guard. So, when you and your spouse are in one team, it becomes easier to deal with everything else.
Be Open To Communication
Marriage and compromises go hand in hand. However, it is important to judge whether every compromise you are making is really worth it. If something bothers you or if you are at a point where you feel it is just you who has to give up everything, you need to talk it out. This may sound a little silly, but there is literally nothing that cannot be solved by a good discussion. You need to sit down with your partner, sip on some tea, and discuss how you feel about a certain issue and what you expect. Also, take turns and be a good listener to know how your partner feels about the same issue.
Always Believe In Romance
As cheesy as it may sound, trust me it works. Your honeymoon is over, no more sexy lingerie or sweet talks. Your old PJs are out and you have already started taking each other for granted. Stop this right now! I'm not saying that your life has to be a Mills and Boon novel all the time, but do not give up on romance. Even saying the simplest things like "Honey, let's go to bed" in a sexy tone or surprising each other with a sweet gesture like holding your wife by her waist as she stirs up something in the kitchen or giving your husband a head massage can get things going.
Bond With Your In-laws
In most Indian households, it is a norm to either live with your in-laws or be frequented by them at regular intervals. Now, I can understand that it can be for a girl to just leave everything behind and start a new family with people she did not grow up with. But, you need to take a deep breath and try bonding with your in-laws. C'mon they are not monsters ;) Once you get to know them, you might realize that things aren't as bad as you assumed. Be open to family discussions and contribute your opinions tactfully. It is important to be able to voice your thoughts to your family and that is exactly what will help you sail smoothly through the marriage.
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Don't Take Fights Too Seriously
So, you are two grownup individuals who have signed up to live together and work through things. Now, there are going to be clashes of opinions whether you like it or not. The moment you have your first meltdown, do not think of it to be the end of the world. There is always a way to work around things. If there is physical abuse or mental torture, then it is a totally unacceptable scenario; but if you have an argument about your finances or about some irritating habit, do not take it to your heart. These things are a part of this journey and you will have a good laugh about it in the future.
Adapting To Lifestyle Change
Adapting from one lifestyle to a totally new one can be very difficult, especially when you are living with your partner's folks. You might not be a morning person and your in-laws wake up at dot 6 a.m. and start their day. Now that you are a part of their family they might expect you to do the same. Make sure you communicate your issues with your in-laws or try to find a middle ground where everyone is happy.
These are some tips on surviving your first year of marriage. Once you are through this phase, you will emerge feeling stronger and much more in love. After all, it takes efforts to make your happily ever after work! Wish you all the best.
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